“Nothing is but what is now”
― Ron Rash
“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh
Social Media is a beautiful place of inspiration but at the same time it can feel like a constant competition. It is easy to feel that everyone is constantly having more fun then you are. Whether it is a delicious smoothie bowl, a great concert night out or a holiday beach photo, it’s constantly shared on Social Media when we log in.
Social media gives us all the opportunity to carefully curate and present the best possible version of our lives to share with the rest of the world. We get to choose exactly what we post, allowing to share only the highlights and leave out all the boring NOT Instaworthy bits.
No doubt that Social Media is a great tool for keeping track of our friends. Also connecting with other humans we would never have met otherwise. The downside of all this online interaction is that we only see the happy, exciting events going on in other people’s lives and this can show us a skewed representation other peoples life’s and our own.
Fear of Missing Out
FOMO – fear of missing out – How often have you watched Stories of others and triggered the feeling that something cooler is always going on? Did you feel unhappy or not worthy afterwards? When you constantly think you are missing out, it takes you out of the present moment and makes it hard for you to enjoy whatever it is you are doing right now. So take a step back end enjoy your activity!
Joy of Missing Out
The next “trendy” word is JOMO – to delight in the moment; to practice mindfulness.
Forget FOMO and try to focus your attention on JOMO – the Joy of Missing Out. Instead of constantly feeling worried that there are so many things we could be doing and not enough time to do them all, how about instead we delight in the fact that we live in an age with so many amazing options available to us! How wonderful is it to live a life that is so packed full of opportunities that you can’t possibly experience them all?
Change your behaviour, put your phone down and don’t spend all your time on Social Media comparing yourself to others. A first step can be practicing mindfulness and become immersed in what you are doing at the moment. Instead of a full packed schedule, slow down and take time for yourself. Spend it with practicing self care and spend time with friends, BE present and engage with them in the moment.
There are always going to be other things going on and you are not part of it. In the end, it’s less about the outer circumstances and more about what YOU have cultivated internally. If you practice the art of being grateful and present for whatever you are participating in at the moment, you will forget about all the other cool things going on and learn to fully appreciate and enjoy that which is right in front of you. (The Beginners Guide to Happiness here)
“Don’t live for a happy ending.
Live for a happy now.”
― Jonathan Saccone Joly